What is Mommy Style?
Ah Mommy Style, we’ve all been there. You didn’t sleep well because your baby was nursing off you all night, or your kids slept in your bed, moving around like a little demon, constantly kicking you in the back. Maybe you stayed up too late enjoying the freedom every parents cherishes once the kids are in bed for the night. Whatever the reason, sometimes as busy moms, we tend to forget about taking care of ourselves and maintaining our identity. This lack of time for ourselves can creep into many areas of our lives, but one area that is often overlooked is style.
“If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.”-Ron Hall,
“Mommy style” has a certain reputation, do yoga pants, a hoodie and a messy bun sound familiar? We get it, being a mom is busy, it can be downright chaotic some days. At the beginning, you’re lucky if you shower on a daily basis. Style for moms doesn’t need to be complicated or fancy, all we’re looking for is a style you like. A style that feels good and that makes you feel like yourself. It CAN be yoga pants and a hoodie, if that’s what makes you feel good. There are certainly ways to wear simple, comfortable outfits that look great. The focus is on looking stylish while incorporating items you already have.
Style is something that is ever-evolving. The undertones of your style may remain the same from year to year, however, small efforts of reinvention may be necessary at some points along the way to keep you interested and inspired. Otherwise, you will likely lose steam and fall into a style-rut. I started 2019 by making style resolutions, actionable style goals for myself to aim for in the new year.
Here are my top tips for maintaining your style-identity as a mom:
Stick to classics:
When you’re a busy momma, the last thing you need is to worry about what’s “in-style” or “on-trend”. I’m not saying you shouldn’t try to incorporate trendy items each season but to save yourself time and stress, make sure the bulk of your closet contains classic items that won’t go in and out of style quickly. Classics like a pair of straight black dress pants, straight, skinny or boot-cut jeans, a white button down blouse, a striped tee, a pencil skirt, a little black dress, a leather belt, ballet flats, a pair of heeled pumps and a neutral colored handbag will provide a solid foundation for your wardrobe that will transfer well from season to season.
This may seem counter-intuitive for your busy mom-life. As a mom you probably spending the majority of your time tidying up your house but by taking the time to go through your clothing using the “Marie Kondo Method” you can get a better handle on your style. I recently began watching the tv series “Tidying Up” with Marie Kondo, a Japanese organizing consultant and author of four books on organizing. Source
This show inspired me to empty the contents of my closet and drawers onto my bed and to go through item by item searching for a feeling of joy. If the item did not evoke this feeling in me then it was time to say thank you to the item for its contribution in my life and to put it in a pile to donate/sell. I surprised myself by filling one and a half large garbage bags of items to donate, I am pretty consistent with purging my closet on an annual basis so the fact that I was able to part with so many items was an eye-opener. Marie also shares tips for folding your clothing which I loved, not only does it look neater but it allows you to easily see everything you own as well as being able to fit more items into a space when compared with traditional folding methods.
Get a color palette:
This is one tip I have mentioned in my other posts and it’s an important one so here it is again. By sticking to a basic neutral color palette such as black, grey, white, beige, brown and navy with pops of brighter colors such as red, orange, yellow, purple and green, you allow for greater ease with creating wearable looks.
Try a capsule wardrobe:
Two years ago I took a deep dive into the world of capsule wardrobes, if you’re not familiar, “a capsule wardrobe is a collection of a few essential items of clothing that don’t go out of fashion, such as skirts, trousers, and coats, which can then be augmented with seasonal pieces ” Source
The beauty of a capsule wardrobe, as I discovered, was that in having a smaller selection of clothing to choose from made the decision of what to wear each morning so much easier. This is key for any mom who wants to look good but with minimal effort. There are many different ways to organize a capsule wardrobe and I have written several posts on the subject which go more in depth 1, 2, 3
“My beauty comes from having my own style, living my own way and knowing my own mind.”
Keep it simple:
This is the most important tip for this particular post on Mommy Style. Don’t overthink your style. One of my favorite ways to get style inspiration is to go to Pinterest and browse through style photos and create a variety of boards to refer to if I start to feel myself drifting into a style-drought.
Outfit planning is another way that you can save yourself time in the morning and look put-together. If you are able to create a weekly, monthly or seasonal capsule wardrobe and then spend a few minutes every evening to plan your outfit for the following day, your style will become streamlined and natural. Start planning each outfit with a base (top + bottom) then add a topper (jacket, sweater, vest), footwear and accessories (handbag, hat, scarf, and jewelry).
Pay attention to colors, try repeating each color in your outfit at least once to create continuity and flow to your look. For example: top: white tee with black writing + black faux leather leggings + black moto jacket + white sneakers + red handbag + gold watch with black strap and gold necklace. In this example the main colors are black and white with pops of gold and red, the repetition of black and white helps to tie the look together as does the repetition of the gold in the accessories.
Flatter YOUR body type:
The main thing here is to dress for the body you have now. Becoming a mom can change your body in so many ways. By embracing and loving the body that you have and dressing to flatter that body you will begin to feel better about your style. Wearing or buying items for the size you want to be is a waste of money and doesn’t lend itself well to someone focused on style. Style is meant to be a reflection of the you inside expressed through your fashion choices. This is the reason why it is important to wear what fits, to wear what you like and to wear what makes you feel amazing regardless of what is trending or popular.
These are the principles I applied when I began to examine my own personal Mommy Style after having my two daughters. By applying these tips to your life your style senses will grow and become stronger and choosing outfits that suit you will begin to feel more natural. Don’t forget to take risks and have fun.